Synchronicity & Crossroads

[Kim Falconer]

Hi Everyone,

I'd like to begin this discussion with a re-telling of a personal event related on my Home Page-- www.falconastrology.com/syn.html

First, consider F. David Peat --
homepages.ihug.co.nz/%7Esai/ISSS_synchr.html

Synchronicities take the form of patterns that emerge by chance out of a general background of chance and contingency and hold a deep meaning for the person who experiences them. Often these coincidences occur at critical points in a person's life and can be interpreted as containing the seeds of future growth. Synchronicities could, therefore, be said to involve the meaningful unfoldment of potential.' (Peat, n.d.)

Here is my specific example that relates strongly to the above view. For years I worked primarily as a shop assistant in a retail store as my ‘day job’ while pursuing creative interests ‘on the side’. I had dreamed of completing a university degree though I was afraid to take the financial risk and quit full time employment. When I heard the owners were selling the shop but that all our shifts would remain, I felt a sense of relief. The job was my bread and butter. I laughed saying, ‘The only reason I would quit this job would be if Ms. X bought it!’ (Ms. X was the one customer in all my years there whom I had clashed with significantly.) ‘If she’s the new owner,' I laughed, 'I’ll resign and go back to school.’ I knew the odds of that being the case were next to impossible.

Three days later I found out that Ms. X had indeed bought the shop.

I made good my promise and resigned, starting my first study period at university two weeks later.

These ‘events’ when viewed from the outside may seem to have little causal connection. One woman buys a business, another enrols at university. For me however, it was an epiphany. The statement I made as a ‘joke’ turned out to foretell a major life change.

Does anyone have a comment about synchronicities arising during times of change?

Your input is welcome.

Warmly,
Kim

[silver]

I have noticed patterns but nothing more really occurs.

Why is this? Is it because I haven't understood?

[Kim Falconer]

Hi silver,

Welcome to the forum.

This is an interesting question. If you are noticing patterns yet feel nothing happens on and outer 'event' level to correspond, you may be 'missing' the subtle coincidence. It may also be 'happening' on an inner level, creating changes in ways so smooth and seamlessly that you don't notice them.

Has anyone else had this experience?

Perhaps Silver, you can offer an example of patterns you've noticed and we can discuss it.

Kim

[Gizmo]

Hi

I've just done a workshop on synchronicity and quantum physics.
it got me thinking.

In 2004 at 10pm I happened to bump into an ex boyfriend I hadn't seen since 1995. He had been living on another continent and I was on a late night flight for business reasons. The only reason we met was due to my waiting for colleagues to exit the plane.

We had parted in 1995 and had plenty of unresolved feelings that we never expressed. We probably would have married but fate got in the way. It didn't end because we wanted it to. It was traumatic for both of us and it was never resolved.

We had sometimes linked up through email or phone depending which continent we were living on but years would go by between this.

We both moved to other countries.

I looked up his synastry chart and realised both our vertexes are conjunct. I have tried to find interpretations of conjunct vertexes on the web but there aren't any.

This was the first time we had seen each other in all those years. After all that time and unspoken feeling - and despite another partner on his side - after we chatted a bit (playing it cool due to shock) and as I explained I had to go and was not collecting baggage he suddenly turned to me and planted a kiss full on my lips. It happened so fast I didn't expect it and it left me shaken. Without saying a word he marched off incredibly fast, obviously feeling too emotional to speak. I'm glad he did because feelings were starting to go crazy inside me and I don't think I'd have been able to talk.

Every now and then through the years I have thought of him, missed him, suppressed it and carried on.

Kim, any thoughts on that joint vertex?

[Kim Falconer]

Hi Gizmo,

This is an interesting question. The Vertex is what I would consider a 'point of synchronicity'. In other words, its activation links to the kinds of surprise events or epiphanies that 'turn our heads around'. Suddenly, we understand things in a new way or perhaps experience a pivotal turning point in our lives.

I've written an article on the nature of the Vertex in association with the myth of Vertumnus. If you haven't seen it yet, you can read it here: www.falconastrology.com/vertex.htm

With your specific query, I'll give you my experience of the Vtx/Vtx conjunction in a synastry comparison.

When we meet someone who has a personal planet or point (including the Vertex) on our Vertex, it can feel like serendipity . Somehow, out of no way and no where, a way is found, even for a moment, and that feeling of 'destiny' with the other creates a lasting transformation in the way we perceive the world. We are awakened in a way that we can't 'shake' and our life may change forever because of it.

When both people’s natal Vertex is involved (remember, you need accurate birth times) then that feeling of serendipity flows through both in a magical way...like being taken 'out of time'.

The relationship you describe sounds very much like this kine of Vtx/Vtx encounter--synchronistic events that flow through the unseen fabric of life to put you together in unexpected ways, evoking unexpected feelings.

It doesn't make a statement on any of the 'traditional' notions—social or cultural norms—we may have regarding relationship. It doesn't say 'and the lived happily ever after'. They may, or they may not. What it does say is that they lived 'changed ever after'. We see the world in a different way, understanding perhaps the intricate inseparability of all energy, all matter...all of us.

Does this make since?

Has there been contact since the event in 2004?

Thanks for your example.

Kim

[Gizmo]

Hi Kim

I'd say the turning point for me was feeling very safe in a man's arms and feeling very very loved.
He was a bit of a player before we met and i know he was distraught when we parted and this may have made him so committed to the next relationship so as not to experience that pain again (pisces moon). I reacted differently. i haven't let anyone get as close as that to me again (cap moon)

re your point below... "serendipity" is a word he used to describe our meeting. he would wax lyrical. I felt an imbalance in how much he felt for me vs what i felt for him. i had just ended a serious relationship when we met. BUT i loved him as much as anyone could love. Somehow he just fell harder.

his vertex is conjunct his eros. my birth time is fairly accurate - tested by events - but there is always a margin for error in the precise minutes. his time is very correct.

me - cape town, 15h03, 13 feb 1969. Him: johannesburg, 06h05, 2 may 1970

he's like a ghost i can't totally shake. i switch it off and then every few years have looked him up, made contact by email/phone, then we've ended up moving to diff countries and losing touch.

i do know that when he kissed me at the airport is was like time stopped. it happened so fast that he came over to me and then the kiss itself felt indescribable - a lot of feeling there. then he was gone.

funnily enough i got the urge to write to him end 2003. we'd lost touch. he was travelling around the world and was at that very moment stuck in a coup situation in bolivia. they were closed into an internet cafe for safety because the military were outside fighting. he didn't know whether they'd get out. it was bizarre that i wrote at that moment.

then i found his new work email address yesterday on google and we wrote long emails to each other. he was shocked i'd got his email address because he'd only been in san francisco 2 weeks after relocating from another country. not even his family have this address because he's literally just gotten there.

it seems i connect to him at major moments in his life. dramatic moments. out of the blue.

I still get emotional privately about him even though it's almost 10 years since we split. maybe my cap moon just held it all in and it only comes out in bits every now and then? i know he fell apart when we ended, seeking numbness through nightlife, food, booze etc - the pisces moon way. now he's fine.

he's a treasured memory and there's a strong strong bond but it's inexplicable. i hadn't run a synastry with the vertex or eros etc before on him. but 10 years later i felt curious enough to.

i think he was more intuitive than me. he knew this was a biggie and I didn't realise it as much till it ended.

Nikki

When we meet someone who has a personal planet or point (including the Vertex) on our Vertex, it can feel like serendipity . Somehow, out of no way and no where, a way is found, even for a moment, and that feeling of 'destiny' with the other creates a lasting transformation in the way we perceive the world. We are awakened in a way that we can't 'shake' and our life may change forever because of it.

When both people’s natal Vertex is involved then that feeling of serendipity flows through both in a magical way...like being taken 'out of time'.

The relationship you describe sounds very much like this kine of Vtx/Vtx encounter--synchronistic events that flow through the unseen fabric of life to put you together in unexpected ways, evoking unexpected feelings.

It doesn't make a statement on any of the 'traditional' notions—social or cultural norms—we may have regarding relationship. It doesn't say 'and the lived happily ever after'. They may, or they may not. What it does say is that they lived 'changed ever after'. We see the world in a different way, understanding perhaps the intricate inseparability of all energy, all matter...all of us.

Has there been contact since the event in 2004?

Thanks for your example.

Kim

[gIZMO]

I have to add something more that was a big differentiator.

we were/are such great communicators that it's not that I chose to be so close. we just were. we got very raw with each other but not in a threatening way. it was very safe to argue, cry, etc. we expressed everything. i was a very closed person in relationships prior to that. i was afraid of conflict.
i'm not saying that when we fought it was at all comfortable but there was a new sense for me that it would not lead to parting.
we "got" each other immediately and it was safe to be who we were.

i realise now how unusual that is.

Nikki

[Kim Falconer]

Hi Nikki,

Yes, it can be unusual to feel that level of safety with another. It's good to have such experiences to know that they are possible--and desirable.

That you contact him at peak moments also reflects the Vertex connection. Because you are connected, you go through those turning points 'together'.

Thanks for sharing this--the strength of the relationship really comes through--even though it has been '10 years'. When it comes to energy between others of this magnitude, time has little impact.

Kim